So, like any expert who is out of his depth on a given question, I turn to the Internet to help bolster my opinion with a few facts.First of all, I want to disabuse you of the opinion that this has anything to do with YOU. Blaming yourself for his inability to get it up would be like a guy blaming himself because you’re PMSing or are clinically depressed.
The only times that I’ve had trouble getting it up were the times that I HAD to (when my wife and I were trying to conceive).
And I’ve gotta tell you, not being able to summon your penis when it’s been perfectly responsive (both voluntarily and involuntarily) your whole life is really trying.
While I’m no doctor, I think it’s obvious that the more pressure a guy puts on himself to perform, the more he’s stuck in his own head, the less likely he’ll be able to perform.
It’s a very frustrating matter, because it makes me feel so unwanted.
He reassures me constantly that I’m sexy and beautiful and that he does, in fact, want me. a body cannot lie, and his inability to maintain an erection at all times worries me.
–Brittany But really, that’s just an image I try to give off for the public.In fact, my penis remains in good working condition, not unlike a reliable Honda Accord with 120,000 miles on it.Evan, I have been dating a 35-year old guy for a couple months now.When we first started fooling around, he was unable to attain an erection.It was understandable, because he was going through a divorce, and so I know he had a lot on his mind all the time, and was used to one woman for so many years. Even when we’re unable to have sex, he’s always making sure that I’m fulfilled in other ways.After a few weeks, he was able to have sex with me, and even reached climax a couple of times. I really, really, really would love to think that there isn’t anything wrong with me…I’m only 24 years old, and I’m pretty sure that I’m not totally disgusting.