I never sat down and wrote out a pros and cons list.Though if I did, the fact that my wife has never seen an episode of “Martin” would be in the con category.But honestly, I didn’t agonize over it or seek counsel about whether it was OK.
Some would never consider marrying someone who wasn’t the same ethnicity as them, so let me tell you why I did.
Expectations To be honest, I always expected to marry a black woman.
I found women of all backgrounds beautiful, but black girls were my “preference.” But when I arrived on my college campus in 2006, I wasn’t looking for a wife at all.
I just wanted to grow in my faith and get a good education.
My first album had just come out, so I had plenty of other things to focus on.
But as I met people at the school, a sophomore named Jessica really caught my attention and we became friends.We ran in the same circles and we ended up joining the same church, so we saw each other a lot.Whenever I post pictures of my family on social media, the responses are always fun. I don’t think anyone should be shocked or disappointed by interracial marriages, but I still wanted to talk about why I married outside my “race. ” But one of the other common responses is, “Is your wife white? This is irrelevant to some, but shocking or even disappointing to others. My wife is a mix of Hungarian, Italian, and Polish—which to most people just means yes, she’s white.The decision to marry someone from a different ethnic background wasn’t a tough one for me.