I have a friend who is in her forties, who told me that her parents got divorced in high school, and that she was really mean to her dad’s girlfriend (who is now his wife) for years.Reply His kids tell their dad that they don't like me because "I'm too nice and bubbly". Well, I did some sleep walking and mumbling walking around the house. Now my boyfriend is saying it traumatized the kids. Reply My bf of about a year and a half has two kids. Worst of all because of this I have a hard time even wanting them here. He has been divorced for 5 years and has a teenaged son (14).His oldest daughter like me but she doesn't like me sleeping over. He also said he hasn't sit them down to discuss what happened and that it was a fluke and an accident. Im not sure what to do, me and him have a baby who should be here in the next month, itsnot fair to her not to have her dad around because hrr siblings dont like me. He is a nice kid, but a shy one, I guess other kids would call him nerdy or anti-social.
I am waiting for the 22 year old to be told to leave. I used to set the table, prepare dinner, sit down to eat. Reply I disagree with the part of it is not your boyfriends fault, don't whine to him. THEN there is the step daughter from his last marriage (there have been 4 I found out) who is NOT his blood yet he still treats like it and she takes up his time from me along with his "grandson" by her that is NOT his grandson!! I don't know what to think because I am new to the situation.
By the time I sat down one of them would be finished and would be leaving before I eventook my first bite. Yes, I do expect HIM to talk to his kids and tell them they are crossing boundaries and making ME uncomfortable in MY own home! Then his 16 yr old son is a little Prince, or so he thinks, he thinks he runs the house and our lives also. His father said nothing to him of how rude and disrespectful that was to me. He acts nicely towards me but its evident that he'd rather me not be around. My bf went through a mutual break up with another woman that didn't get along with his son at all.
They as you stated are NOT my kids, so that is not MY talk to have, it is HIS responsibility! It's all HIS call and he doesn't have to respect me or our home or relationship at all, my now ex boyfriend doesn't make him! He shows up at dinner time with his friends I DID NOT KNOW WERE COMING.once or twice... His father is afraid if he punishes him he won't come over anymore and will stay with mom full time which means he will have to pay more. So, I admit that I go out of my way to show him that perhaps unlike the other woman, I get it and that I will make every effort.
His kids are 26 and 16..26 yr old thinks she is daddies keeper and can run his life, have her mail sent to OUR home instead of her own apartment for what ever reason and but's into our relationship with what her 16 yr old brother is "uncomfortable with" regarding he and I. She is out on her own and needs to stay out of our business. Although its difficult at times because I feel like the odd man out, especially when we go to outings or trips together.
We have gone on two family vacations together (I have no kids) where the son was with us.
I tried to engage occasionally, but its obvious he wanted no part of the trip or me. I think that my boyfriend sees this and does things to reassure the kid that he is the priority.He is a smart kid, and is very polite and I commend my bf and his ex wife for co parenting well. I got her a dozen roses and a box of her favorite chocolates.” I replied, “That’s nice.” My friend responded, “What does it matter? Wouldn’t YOU want to spend as much time with your dad as you could if he wasn’t living in your house anymore? Understand when your boyfriend wants to spend time with his kids without you. My boyfriend was making me homemade cough syrup and it contained Schnapps. It's a good point of view to see through another's eyes in the article. My kids are in their first year of college and they're verycivil to my boyfriend of 1 year.She’ll still hate me.” Dating someone with kids can be really difficult. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or want to be with you. If you do that, when he IS with you, he will love you so much more. I was really lucky my step-father was SO great at playing that role in my life. We, my BF and I, decided if I took a swig off the Schnapps every hour or so it would help my cough and it did. However, his daughter who is much younger (middle-school age) is having a difficult time with her father dating.The relationship of a girlfriend and her guy’s kids can be so complicated, with so many factors to consider. The kids might feel like they are being disloyal to their mother if they are kind to the girlfriend. They might be jealous that the girlfriend is taking their dad’s time. They might have hope that the parents are getting back together and that this is the woman standing in the way of that. They might really like the woman, but are just shy. Reply I've seen it work both ways (other person's kids have attitude or 'your' kids have attitude). Of course, I did genuinely dislike 2 of my dad's former girlfriends (but they were terrible women... It is wonderful for a teen to have a 'neutral' adult from whom they can get good advice. So I took a few sips before bed (I absolutely hate the taste of beer, wine and any liquor) before I took my ambien and fell asleep. We went 5 days w/out speaking until I called him today and demanded we talk about this. (Law School) Oh, the night all this happened with me my BF was drinking and getting buzzed. But that seems to be okay because his kids accept his drinking????? My bf lives with me in my house, he gets his kids evety Saturday, they arerude to me, rude to my kids, they dont listen and there dad usually sides with them. I am trying to be patient and trusting that God will work things out . Because she is troubled, I not allowed to be around him when she's visiting which can be a week at a time. Reply My boyfriend and I have been dating for 11 months now. She said she ended up apologizing to the woman years later, because she realized it wasn’t the woman she disliked, it was HER feeling resentful that her dad wasn’t with her mom. Dating someone with kids is very different than dating someone who doesn’t have kids. Came on here to find advice to help with my dad's gf.