To the ladies on here i hope your not lying and pulling a fast one, that is to say you did something bad when they were children and are now trying to blame your children, but i do assume that some of the ladies on here are telling the truth in which case i wish my mother had been like you, you see my mother was evil tried to kill me for things like not saying the n word to a black person, hated me not being a bad son so she'd have someone to complain about, to her friends as their children misbehaved, most of her friends were drug dealers and so forth who abused me, and don't get me started about what i went through at school, anyway to the ones who are telling the truth, its possible either your children are just bad people sometimes it's not the parents fault, no matter what you tried to do to love or help them, anyway i wish i'd have had a mother who had raised me right, i have friends because i push people away as am scared to get hurt again, plus i dont date as i have a deep fear of being cheated on my mother raised me around people who cheated constantly and i know that people say not everyone does but the memory of the male ******** who beat me up so my mother could ********** to it and yes i was 7 when this happened, so my advice to you is create strong boundaries, tell sit down and talk to me, i will not tolerate your behaviour towards me and then tell them i wont be in your life until you apologies and change your behaviour towards me and then step out of their lives until they hopefully change, sorry i cant be of anymore help. I try to talk to him but he has nothing to say nothing nice anyway. He is working and he gets along very well with my husband,his dad. He has been bringing the same girl over for awhile,but says it's not his g.f. I spent so much time with him when he was growing up. I am always s'portive and encourage him,but he ****** me off and I feel like he is ashamed of me and that hurts alot...
Firstly, I won't question why it is a Scottish man in particular that you want to date because hey, I get it: you saw Gerard Butler in a film once and dug his accent and assume that all Scottish men are that rugged and handsome.
[: I saw Gerard Butler walking down Byres Road a couple weekends ago with this current-model girlfriend, and although my heart was a flutter at the idea of Gerard Butler, in reality it was a bit of a let down as he looked pretty hung-over].
As a Canadian dating in Scotland, I initially found it quite difficult as there isn't the same culture/ tradition of dating as there is in North America.
Back in Toronto, it wasn't considered strange/ too forward for a guy to approach you and either: (a) just start talking to you SOBER and/or (b) offer to buy you a drink.
I get a surprising amount of emails from women - mainly American and Canadian - about dating Scottish men: e.g. North American dude; what does it mean when a Scottish guy asks them out for a drink with all his friends and so on and so forth.
Most of the time I respond because they're just looking for advice/ perspective and as everyone knows, I have publicly lamented about dating in this country so I am more than happy to pass on what I have learned, if anything.Nevertheless, I thought I should try and attempt to offer up my advice once and for all - albeit, at the risk of repeating myself.Please note, however, that I am approaching the dangerous and controversial territory of dating in Scotland, from a North American perspective, and you may run the risk of being misinterpreted as "too forth right".The same cannot be said about Scottish men, I'm afraid.Which brings me to my first point: This takes some getting used to.For example, it's not really polite to directly ask someone what they do for a living.